Real Question:
“Why can’t I stop overthinking everything, even though I know it’s irrational?”

Insight/Story:
We treat overthinking like a mental habit.
But it’s a spiritual disconnection.
It happens when the mind forgets it’s not the master – and starts trying to be the soul.

When people come to me stuck in mental loops – obsessing over decisions, second-guessing themselves, worrying about things they can’t control – what they think they need is clarity.
What they really need is contact.

Overthinking is what happens when we try to replace presence with certainty.

Let me explain.

The mind is not the problem.
The problem is identification with the mind.
When you believe that your thoughts are you, then every thought becomes urgent, real, and dangerous.
So you follow them.
You try to out-think fear.
You try to out-plan uncertainty.
You try to logic your way back to safety.

But thought can never resolve fear – because fear isn’t in the mind.
It’s in the body.
It’s in the psyche.
It’s in the part of you that feels the void.

This is where most intelligent, capable people get stuck.
They try to fix emotion through cognition.
But the mind is not the healer here – it’s the one trying to protect you from feeling.
And it’s exhausted.

One client, a CTO of a fintech company, described it like this:
“My mind never shuts off. Even when I’m meditating, it’s planning how to meditate better.”

This is what happens when we attempt to mentally dominate what is meant to be somatically surrendered to.

So what’s really going on?

The Shift:
Overthinking is a strategy.
It’s how your psyche avoids contact with the deeper energetic truth of the moment.
Because if you were to stop thinking, you might feel…

• …the emptiness.
• …the sadness.
• …the truth.

That truth could be anything:

• “I don’t know who I am anymore.”
• “I’m scared that I’m not living the life I’m meant to.”
• “I’m afraid of failing – and more afraid of succeeding.”

The mind is trying to save you from the abyss.
But the abyss is the door.

When we teach Presence in Integrative Coaching, we’re not training people to “be in the now” as a productivity hack.
We’re training the system to stop seeking safety through knowing – and instead find safety in being.

It’s not about killing thought.
It’s about relating to thought from the Silent Witness – the part of you that watches but does not cling, correct, or control.
When that awakens, overthinking becomes unnecessary.
Why?
Because you’re not trying to escape anymore.
You’ve returned.

Takeaway/Reflection:
Try this right now:
Instead of asking, “What do I need to think through?”
Ask, “What do I need to feel through?”

That subtle shift can break the entire loop.
Because presence doesn’t solve your thoughts.
It makes them irrelevant.

The way out of overthinking isn’t clearer thoughts.
It’s deeper stillness.
And the moment you choose stillness over certainty, the mind stops needing to scream.
It trusts that someone wiser is finally listening.

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